Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Journalistic Preconceptions About The Sex Business

I saw a headline in the Metro the other day that summarised most of the misunderstandings that the media and people not involved in the sex industry have about the clients of escorts. The headline was “Why do men in their 20s pay for sex?” Wow. Great journalism there. So let us break it down a little. Apart from the fact that the journalist really, really needed some copy, especially something that would be a little click bait to keep their editors happy, what else is pre supposed in the article? That men in their twenties can get laid whenever they want. No. That men in their twenties have somewhere to get laid. Not in the major cities of the world they don´t, not with rents and property prices as high as they are. That men in their twenties can get laid with the women that they want. No. A friend of mine has a real thing for Selma Hayek, but I do not think it is worth his while holding out. That men in their twenties can get girls to do whatever it is. No – most girls are not necessarily going to do the kind of things that most professional escorts regard as run of the mill. Let alone help out if their guy is secretly into being dominated, beaten or has some other kind of fetish.

And what else is implied in the article? That only old, ugly, socially impaired men pay for sex. Just not true. Most escorts tell me that many of the men they meet as clients are actually better than the
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guys they meet in bars or from Tinder. You know what kind of man pays for sex? One who has enough money to pay for sex. And a pulse. Sex workers in Madrid will be as likely to meet a young good looking guy as they will be to meet a fat unattractive smelly guy. Men want sex. And they can not necessarily get the kind of sex that they want, with the kind of women they want, when they want, where they want. Unless they pay for it. If they could, then sex workers would be out of business.


What did the article conclude? From a sample of (I suspect) about five men, that the reasons men see prostitutes are: Because they are unattractive and can not get sex. Because they have no personality and can not get sex. Because they are kinky and their girl friend will not supply the kink – or more likely because the guys have not been open about their kink. Because they share a flat and do not have the privacy to have sex – what, they all sleep in the same room? Oh Lord, I am so tired of the press asking everyone except professional escorts about professional escorts. Maybe I ought to ask the general public about who reads newspapers and what it is like to be a journalist!

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Tinder, One Night Stands & Escorts

I was thinking about something this morning. I read an article about a twenty five year old girl who called into an LBC. She was being lauded for her honesty and bravery in admitting that she worked as an escort in London. The interviewer and the person then writing the article were shocked that she also “claimed”to enjoy her work and to not feel at risk while she was doing it. And they were astonished that she had chosen the job deliberately as the best way for her to make money rather than working in a conventional job. I started out just thinking “hey ho, another set of journalists who can not see past cliches and their preconceptions. Then the more I thought about it, the more pissed off I became.

The young lady involved made a brilliant point when she was asked about her safety while she was meeting clients. She said something that fits exactly with the way I have always thought, and with my experience working with escort agencies in Gran Canaria. She said that she had never had any problems with clients so far. Then came the kicker, in my opinion, she said that she felt as safe meeting clients as she did when she would walking into a bar to meet a guy that she had contacted with on Tinder. And it is a very good point. Girls find guys on Tinder and then meet them for the first time and head off back to the guys place for emotion free sex on one night stands. Never met before, never met again. And yet off they go for a shag with a total stranger without anyone knowing where they are going or with whom. And people say that being an escort is dangerous!


If an escort works with an escort agency, the agency will know where they are going, for how long, have contact details for the client and will contact the girl at the start of the “date” to make sure everything is OK, and at the time that the “date” is supposed to finish to make sure the girl is still safe. And if there is any problem, either their driver will be at the door or they will call the Police. So who is safer, the girl on a one night stand with a stranger, or a prostitute working with an escort agency?
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Wednesday, January 3, 2018

How To Enjoy Your Time With An Escort

I remember the first time that I slept with an escort. Well, obviously, slept was not the appropriate term on that first occasion. More like “had a nervous quicky with an escort because I was too filled with anxiety about the experience” to be perfectly honest. It was while I was travelling for work and had been away from home for a long time. I am old, so Skype was not available. And porn over the internet mainly involved spending hours waiting for a single low res image to download over a dial up connection. And by the time it did finish downloading you had either wanked yourself to a standstill or lost interest. Hence, looking for an escort.

But while now it is really easy to go online and find anything you want - just type in a simple search string and you will find escort agencies wherever you might happen to be. You can even have a bit of a play around with search terms and type in less obvious terms such as Tenerife Beauties and you will still find links to escort agencies – as well as lots of pretty photos to keep you happy while you wait for the girl you choose to arrive.

Anyway, after my first experience with escorts and after my divorce, I became much more comfortable with the whole process. Simple familiarity eased my nerves of course, as it does with most things, but I also learned how to get what I wanted and how to make the experience as enjoyable as possible for both the escorts I was seeing and also, of course, for me. The main rule that I learned to keep to was to be honest. Honest with myself and the escort agency about the kind of girl that I wanted to meet with and the type of sex that I wanted to have. Honest with the lady herself about my expectations and desires, and about whether I was enjoying myself or not.

And I also learned the difference between expecting to give a woman sexual ecstasy (which is honestly not going to happen in 99.9% of encounters with escorts as they need to keep their professional heads on) and doing my best to make the encounter as enjoyable physically and mentally for her as possible while accepting reality.