Friday, December 22, 2017

Merry Christmas To All Sex Workers!

At this time of year most of is are looking forward to taking a break from work and putting our feet up. This is the case too for most sex workers too; although of course a lot of sex workers spend most of the year with their feet and legs up in the air, but in a less relaxing way. However going home to family and friends can be stressful if they have no idea as to what you do for a living. Some of course are lucky in that they have a confidante or have been able to ‘come out' already to loved ones. Unfortunately for most sex workers this is still not the case. The stigma attached to sex work of any type is still very strong in today’s society. In some ways perhaps we are more puritanical now that in days of old.

Our society is still very patriarchal combine this with good old fashioned Judeo-Christian values and we have a melting pot of beliefs and attitudes that today as based even more on hearsay and the media so no wonder even  sex workers in Las Palmas and other party venues feel the need to hide what they do. Even to the network of friends and family who would be most able to help them through the emotional and physical problems that many sex workers face as a direct result of their line of work.

I think its fair to say that a lot of sex workers are made to feel ashamed of what they do by wider society. Actually, I am sad to admit that saying that is a cliché even now. We are not called the oldest profession for nothing! No wonder then that they often choose to hangout with other providers of sexual services and use them, as their support network. I am sure that they feel that ‘ civilians' would not understand. And they are all too often correct.

We all have our bad days and good days at work. So its entirely normal to want to share success and solve problems by chatting with friends and colleagues. Not to mention the occasional funny story that most people outside whatever industry would need to have translated for them to understand! Accountants, lawyers, plumbers, truck drivers and fishermen all have their own jargon and sense of humour. Sex workers are no different.


Unfortunately for them however I’m most cases the “ pot' of advice they have to draw upon is usually limited to a very select few and the opportunity to gain advice from people with other points of view becomes limited.. And that is where the problems, both emotional and psychological are all too often going to start. We all need a support structure, and if society insists ion keeping us outside the norm – no matter how normal we and our profession is – then, as usual, it is the sex worker that suffers. Merry Christmas to us all!  

Sunday, December 10, 2017

The Princess Bride

The Princess Bride is, without a doubt, the most perfect film ever. There is no bad scene. In fact, not even a bad line. Every actor delivers the perfect performance. It stars Cary Elwes, Robin Wright, Mandy Patinkin, Chris Sarandon, Wallace Shawn, Andre the Giant and Christopher Guest. Their careers hardly flourished afterwards, though Robin Wright has had an amazing third act to her career after returning from her years raising the children she had with Sean Penn.

It was written by William Goldman, based on his earlier novel. It stands out among all his othjer gritty works such as Marathon Man (“Is it safe?”), All The Presidents Men (“Follow The Money”) as well as Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid (“The fall will probably kill you!”). Later in his film career he wrote films with sexy escorts and abused women as key characters, such as Absolute Power (starring Clint Eastwood) and The Generals Daughter starring John Travolta. In fact it produced a great performance from Mr Travolta, which is a wonder in itself.

Films about escorts and strong women used to take only two forms back in the nineteen seventies and nineteen eighties. Rape or murder victims or drug addled blackmailers. Wow has that now changed.
Entire TV series such as The Deuce and The Girlfriend Experience, Westworld not merely have realistic and non-cliched escorts and prostitutes as major characters. They are the stars. Sympathetic, deep, interesting and profound. As well as flawed, mixed up, cruel and stupid. You know, people!


And the change has happened so fast that I have no idea when it began. There was the film of The Girlfriend Experience by Steven Soderbergh, but that did not have much impact until the TV programme came along years later. So I am not at all sure where the transition happened. But it happened all at once. And yet society has not kept up. Especially in America. Where the weirdest crap is still going on. Not a day goes by that some raid, campaign or whatever is in the news. The States is so messed up in their views toward prostitution. It is all over their TVs and movies. Porn is prolific, if not endemic. And yet it is illegal and persecuted pretty much anywhere.